Thing’s I’ve Learned from SpiritWeek

Throughout the last few weeks of SpiritWeek, I have learned a few things about SpiritWeek as well as about my relationship. First of all, I learned we shouldn’t have SpiritWeek over the Christmas and New Year holidays - the two weeks surrounding these days are chaotic enough. Secondly, I realized I probably don’t need to plan SpiritWeek during my super busy months. I don’t have enough time to keep my sanity, let alone my love life alive.

I’ve also learned that no one else does SpiritWeek and no one else votes in my dumb polls! Seriously people, you can’t have a “Sex in the City” life experience without actually having sex yourselves!!

In my own relationship I’ve seen how SpiritWeek really can turn up the chemistry. It just takes you out of your routines and makes your time together a little more spontaneous and therefore much more exciting.

And of course I was constantly reminded how our underlying relationships with the world around us are the most important thing and no amount of SpiritWeek can cover up real problems or issues you may be having. When I was feeling down about things, this blog was the last thing I really cared about.  Which brings me to my final learning point: since no one actually reads this blog anyway, maybe I can use it to become a bit more transparent and talk about things that are actually affecting me.

Things I plan to talk about if I get the guts (in no particular order):
1. The way my internship is affecting me.
2. The various sources of instability in my life.
3. My goals/dreams/fears.
4. and my success stories along the way.

Outdoors Day

As we come to the close of our 6 week SpiritWeek adventure, we of course have to close with our most epic SpiritWeek activity: Outdoors Day. The beach, a hotel patio, a camping trip, even your own backyard under the stars. Anywhere you pick must be outside of the comfort of our homes and out into the great outdoors!!

Now seeing as we have picked to end our session with Outdoors Day in the dead of winter and it is the hardest activity to complete, I have decided to give you all a little more time to complete it than just one week. This means that you have until next time SpiritWeek is in session to complete this out door adventure! So take your time to plan how to get your man under the stars for a night that would turn any guy into an outdoorsman :)

His heart’s desire

There was once a time when I would have dropped everything to watch sports, eat at weird restaurants, or wander home improvement stores just to spend time with my now husband then boyfriend. It didn’t matter what he wanted to do, I was willing to commit 100% to that football game and eat junk food with him on the couch. These days? I can’t stand watching those boring football games. And that hole in the wall restaurant he loves? The menu’s are sticky, the food is greasy, and you suspect the owner must have some connections with the pulic health department or he would have been closed down years ago.

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This week after coming back from our Snow Day, I’ve been thinking about things that my husband loves no matter what day or circumstance. The last 4 weeks of this SpiritWeek blog for example, are things that every man would love. But this week I’ve taken a step back and thought about what else he’d love that takes me outside my usual day to day routine. So this week’s challenge is a bit different in that it might not be as “spicy” as the others, but I have a feeling he’ll love just as much as the rest.

This week think about the one thing he’d love that you usually wouldn’t do for him – may it be that football game or helping him change the oil in your car – and surprise him by your willingness to do it with him! Buy those favorite BBQ chips of his and watch the game with him – without complaining about the cheerleaders or being distracted by your laptop.  Or take him to a hockey game and yell along with him. Or take him to that greasy taco stand without commenting on the sketchy cashier. Whatever it is your man is into, find something he loves and take the time this week to do it with him – and without giving him your opinion on it!

In short, this week do something you would have done as a girlfriend in an early relationship, but don’t usually do now that your relationship has reached that comfort level.  It might be a little less Spicy than the other weeks, but it’s just as fun and unexpected and will sure to make him just as happy! And who says it won’t lead to something a little Spicier? Just make sure this week 5 of SpiritWeeks shows your man the same love and appreciation he deserves!

And for your opinions,